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Victoria Said It!

The shit you think

Monday Motivation

When we take our time, we overcome our fears. Simple! Today and everyday beyond, conquer your fears, because those fears are in the way of your success.

SAY IT!

1. My full potential to be great is shining through, everyday. More and More!

2. I am focused.

3. The only person in my way is me, if I allow it.

4. No one person can make me give up

5. I am overcoming all fears of being successful.

BELIEVE IT! 

You know you that bitch when you cause all this conversationAlways stay gracious, best revenge is your paper. 

-Beyoncé (Formation)

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Flint Water Drive

If you don't know about the water crisis in Flint, you should know. Just imagine doing all of your everyday things, like brushing your teeth, washing your face, taking a shower, and so much more that we take for granted. Now being limited to a case of water to complete all that. This problem has been going on for over a year now and thanks to the people listening, the world opened up their ears and their heart to contribute with the families in Flint, Michighan.
This past weekend Radio One Saint Louis partnered up with Project Compassion NFP, The Korey Johnson Foundation, and Beyond Limits Production to make an everlasting memory. As they reached out to the community to collect a goal of one thousand cases of water.

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The community came out in droves as the on-air talents such as; Boogie-D, Meghan O, and A-Plus of Hot 104.1 and Staci-Static, DJ Kut, and DJ Quinn of Old School 95.5 jumped on the airwaves to encourage people to bring out the water for the people of Flint, Michigan.

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Instead of reaching their goal, they exceed it, by collecting seven thousand cases of water. Radio One Saint Louis and friends came together to make sure that the families of Flint, Michigan know they aren't alone. 

To be on site it brought a feeling that made you see that there are humans in this wild world. It also made you feel like no matter had bad you think you have it, somewhere someone is going through it worse. As a community to see people not thinking about themselves was refreshing and yes there have been several water drives for Flint, but is it ever really enough? 

Faith in the stars. I'm gon' do what I want, cause this life's what I'm given. Gotta keep my faith in the dark clouds.-Drake (Faith ft. K-OS)

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Monday Motivation

I know the year has just begun, we are all going through our ups and downs! Sorry, it doesn't get easier, you get stronger. Yes, you do! We take a big hit on ourselves because we are our own worst critics. So right now, STOP! STOP MAKING WORRYING YOURSELF SICK! Tell yourself these helpful tips today and everyday after. 

1) I am in command of my future.

2) This is me getting stronger!

3) I can't give up!

4) I will allow my bad time to be my lessons to refer to in my future.

5) Today is my day and this year is my year!

They always tell me nobody's working as hard as you.  

And even though I laugh it off, man, it's probably true! 

-Drake (Light Up)

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Victoria Said It! Episode 3: SHE NAGS!!!!

We have Mr.M with him and his wife of 6 years is driving him crazy! Check out and hear what Mr. M sent in to ASK VICTORIA!

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F*ck bein' on some chill shitWe go 0 to 100, ni**a, real quick-Drake (0 to 100/The Catch Up)

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Victoria Said It! Episode 2: You're not alone

 It's ASK VICTORIA!

We have Lady L, and she writes that she's a senior in high school. Getting ready to graduate this May! She has a dilemma, can't make her think this is the end.

Check out what Lady L has going on!

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Living at my mama's house we'd argue every mornin' ni**a,I was trying to get it on my own...Ni**a, I just think it's funny how it goesNow I'm on the road, half a million for a showAnd we...Started from the bottom now we're here-Drake (Started From The Bottom)

Monday Motivation

Don't Bring 'Em Home If They Can't Use Your Comb

This write up has been in the works for a little over a month. This isn't the easiest to write because I personally have so much emotion tied into. People have their opinions, so I decided to write this from another's experience who would be just as passionate in her words about stereotypes and acceptance of her family.
 I got the chance to get some time of my older sister to ask her some questions. Her family is super adorable and guess what? They are just that, a family. Not a black family, not a white family, but a family. There's Chas, Tim, and their son Corbin.
Many black women refuse to date outside the race for a number of reasons. When you see an interracial couple, most people are still very judgemental. Why not talk about the stereotypes, dealing with acceptance, and the experience of interracial dating?

Victoria: Have you heard of the stereotype; white women that date black men are in it for the money?

Chas: I have literally never heard of this stereotype! There's some humor to it because I've known several white women who've dated black men and that never crossed my mind.

This one lady, Cathy, dated nothing but black men, we always joked that she wanted to be black so bad that she would give them HER money. Her last boyfriend Mark took her for all she had and it was such an odd pairing because he, as a black man, seemed border-line racist towards white people.

Another lady, Marlene says that she's only attracted to black me and just can't “see” herself with anyone outside of the black race. It's just her personal preference.

Victoria: In these times now, biracial couples are still being looked at as if love has a definition of what ethnicity is allowed to fall in love. Many say they'd never let their son date a white girl. Some feel it's a diss to the black man for a black woman to date a white man. As society shows us on television, biracial couples are ok, as long as they look like Jason And Kelly Pitts (BET, The Game).
For me personally, it's hard to be prejudice, because my ethnic background is so mixed up, but I love my black people. I love a black man, but if he's not crazy, got a smile, 6'0" or better ,respectful, and he's head over heels for me... I don't care if he's rainbow, sounds like a keeper to me but time and time again when an African American woman is dating outside the race, she's  called a “sellout” and are said to not be“black enough”.

Chas: I'm quite sure that this notion crosses some people's mind when they see Tim and I, along with Corbin. Knowing this does not bother me, only because we've been together for so long. The looks and stares are just not important to me anymore.

Rewind back 8 years ago: I intentionally looked for people who stared at us too long just so that I could 'hardcore' stare right back until they got uncomfortable. I was angry at the shear rudeness of people and this my 'revenge' on them.

Do I think of myself as a sellout? No. Tim was the first/only white guy I ever dated. It wasn't suppose to last. I'm not a sellout because his race was not the reason that I chose to continue my relationship with him.

I think that a sellout is a person who, given a choice would choose the (in this case) white guy of the guy of my own race (black). No, I remain with Tim because he was the first guy to show a desire to be in a long-term relationship with me, he wanted a future with me.

I don't consider myself a sellout because I liked having a boyfriend that loved me, I eventually wanted a future with him NOT a baby with 'good hair'. That would be selling out!

And I am 'black enough' because I love myself. Sure my natural hair gets on my nerves and I haven't gone to Africa to 'search' my ancestry, but how many 'us' have natural hair and have gone to Afric? Just because you stay dating in your race, does not give one “more blackness”. I think that being aware of where our culture came from and where it's headed is being “more black”.

Victoria: Acceptance when racism still exist can be a challenge. You've seen the remake of Guess Who's Coming to Dinnner called Guess Who starring Bernie Mack and Ashton Kutcher, it was just as difficult to have the father of the daughter except this white male, but reality he explained as a father, no one will ever be good enough for his daughter.
Ashton Kutcher's character dealt with his white coworkers and boss accepting his black girlfriend. In the name of love for his girlfriend he quit his job. How has this experience of acceptance been for you all?

Chas: Our families were well aware that if they did not accept us, then they'd lose us! I was under no pressure to remain within the race, and neither was Tim by his parents. When I met some of his other family (cousins uncles etc...) I could tell that there was some discomfort but I knew that it was something on their part. I didn't make anyone uncomfortable; they made themselves uncomfortable. So when I thought of it that way, I was just fine with whatever they thought of me.

In the beginning of our relationship, one of Tim's childhood friends told him that he didn't 'really like black girls'. Tim told him “...she's not for YOU” and their relationship is basically non-existent now.

One of my best friends told me “I don't want you with a white guy!” that really didn't bother me, because I didn't expect it to last that long, but as time went by she realized that she was either going to accept it or lose me. She's still my best friend to this day and she loves Tim with all of her heart. I'm glad that my family loves Tim and I know that Tim's parents, brothers and sister love me just as I do them

It's daunting to have this 'duty' to show people that love truly is blind. I'm at a point with grown ups who can't accept interracial dating that I'm okay with leaving them in their ignorance. Let them swim in it, I'm not getting paid to change their perceptions.

"Take it or Lose me!"
-Chastity Alexis McGraw

The Universe Speaks Loud... but you don't hear it

Sometimes the universe has it's way of speaking to you. It's been a humbling experience down this road. I'm not sure if this is as far as its taking me but I know after my jobless experience, it's been a stressful ride and I only cried like 3 times, which 2 of those were out of anger. The 1 time I think I just needed to relieve some pressure...
By all means,  I'm able to be happy. My spirit is happy. I've lost some people along the way and that's cool. I wish them much peace and maybe in due time when I allow them back in my life, they'll be ready for me... Then again in this humbling experience I can just worry about today. Things I can't change, I won't fight. I'll just let it happen.
You can't change anything, it's easier to know that. Know you're going to do what the universe has in store for you, it's easier to grow like that. In the upmost respect of yourself and the universe, live as free as you can. The universe doesn't have a given time line and we can't hold on to tomorrow, better to live like that.

"I'm turnin' into a nigga that thinks about money and women, like 24/7. That's where my life took me. That's just how shit happened to go"
-Drake (Know yourself)

RANT: Life

Realize you can't change shit. Thats a given, you can't change people, you can't change a decision you already made, you can't worry about shit. You just have to live. You hold on to shit and it makes you sick. It makes you worse. You become the person you can't be around and wonder why no one wants to be around you.
I've taken a minute off of writing to get a hold on things that I couldn't change. As if was a slave to giving up on what I love to ensure the satisfaction of others. So in my time off, I did the shit I love;I decided to live and do homework. It's only so much you can take of doing for others that don't value you. Sometimes it's healthy to shut out the negative and all the bad vibes, to surround yourself with total peace.

My advice to you is my daughter's favorite phase from the movie FROZEN, "Let it go!"

" You only live once, that's the motto, ni--a Yolo!"
-Drake The Motto