Monday Motivation

When we take our time, we overcome our fears. Simple! Today and everyday beyond, conquer your fears, because those fears are in the way of your success.

SAY IT!

1. My full potential to be great is shining through, everyday. More and More!

2. I am focused.

3. The only person in my way is me, if I allow it.

4. No one person can make me give up

5. I am overcoming all fears of being successful.

BELIEVE IT! 

You know you that bitch when you cause all this conversationAlways stay gracious, best revenge is your paper. 

-Beyoncé (Formation)

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Monday Motivation

Ray Lewis and Victoria

All my latest conversations have revolved around the topic of findings your purpose. I will be honest, I want to do everything, so when I'm asked , "what are you capable of doing?" My reply can be,"everything". 

Not too long ago I joined the class of the parents and soon-to-be parents of high school students. To speak to these young individuals, only feeling like I was speaking to a reflection of my teen self. It was an eye opener and gave me the ability to see a purpose in myself. 

Then this past weekend I got to meet former NFL player, Ray Lewis and his uncle introduced him, he stated everything this man had done great, but passionately said, "his next move is his best move". With that said as you find your purpose, remember your best is yet to come. Why? Because...

1. I am destined to be great

2. I'm not in control of the cards dealt, but my purpose is in the right direction.

3. I'm here to not only exist, but live.

4. Not matter the trials to get there, my outcome will be greater.

5. I'm doing my best at all times.

"...And I ain't perfect. And I work hard. So I deserve it. And I belong..."-Drake (UNSTOPPABLE)

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Monday Motivation

It's only a moment, I promise. The times where you think that your life is the hardest. It isn't, it is literally that moment that is building you to have the strength to handle any and everything coming your way. Tell yourself:

1. I'm allowed to cry alone, but never give up.

2. This isn't the end, this is a trial to get to my reward.

3. This is my time

4. I am becoming great

5. I'm getting my pool bigger than Kanye

They don't want you to have a pool bigger than Kanye
-DJ Khaled (Drake Summer Sixteen)

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Monday Motivation

I know the year has just begun, we are all going through our ups and downs! Sorry, it doesn't get easier, you get stronger. Yes, you do! We take a big hit on ourselves because we are our own worst critics. So right now, STOP! STOP MAKING WORRYING YOURSELF SICK! Tell yourself these helpful tips today and everyday after. 

1) I am in command of my future.

2) This is me getting stronger!

3) I can't give up!

4) I will allow my bad time to be my lessons to refer to in my future.

5) Today is my day and this year is my year!

They always tell me nobody's working as hard as you.  

And even though I laugh it off, man, it's probably true! 

-Drake (Light Up)

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Monday Motivation

IT IS A NEW YEAR AND NO, NOT A NEW ME, BUT KNOW IT'S A REAL YEAR. THE MOTIVATION IS ON A THOUSAND AND IT IS MONDAY!!! THE FIRST MONDAY OF THE NEW YEAR AND YOU ARE IN THE RIGHT PLACE!!!! GET YOUR MIND TOGETHER! MAKE THIS YEAR YOUR YEAR TO SHINE! NO YOU DONT HAVE TO BE NEW IN HOW YOU CARRY YOURSELF BUT BE NEW IN THE IMPACT YOU PUT INTO YOUR GRIND! IF YOU'VE BE HANGING ON, YOU'LL KNOW I USE MONDAY AS A NEW YEAR EVERY WEEK, BECAUSE THE WEEK TO COME IS GOING TO COME WITH NO TRIALS  AND TRIBULATIONS!
HANG ON BABY! I GOT WHAT YA NEED!! MONDAY MOTIVATION!!!

For the new year, I'll start with 5 motivational affirmations I tell myself and my daughter!

1) I'm great
2) Not one person or situation can break me!
3) There is always an upside to what seems like a downfall
4) Pain is temporary
5) Use any form of a fall back as a come up!

Doing is one thing. Doing it right is a whole different story -Drake (Preach ft Party Next Door)

5 QUOTES

 I've  discovered that being an adult is the ultimate challenge, then to dig deep I find it is even more of a challenge to be a woman. In addition to being a female and adult... add black to the equation baby. 

Women birth the children with the help of a males sperm, but we carry the child for 9 months in hopes that the child we birth will be healthy, smart, and safe. We hope that this child will listen to us and stay away from the bad people. As a mother, the struggles are real. 

Being black is the icing on the cake. It is 2015 and to be uplifted by society is an up hill battle. No I'm not putting down white women. I'm simply uplifting woman all together that I know without a doubt get only little praise and little encouragement. And no I'm not preaching feminism, but as its been stated, encouragement. Yes when all else fails, quote Drake, but no fails here; be powerful! 

• “Success is liking yourself, liking what you do, and liking how you do it.” – Maya Angelou
• ‎”When there is no enemy within, the enemies outside cannot hurt you.” – African Proverb
• “The triumph can’t be had without the struggle.” – Wilma Rudolph
• “Whatever is bringing you down, get rid of it. Because you’ll find that when you’re free . . . your true self comes out.” — Tina Turner
• “There is always something to do. There are hungry people to feed, naked people to clothe, sick people to comfort and make well. And while I don’t expect you to save the world I do think it’s not asking too much for you to love those with whom you sleep, share the happiness of those whom you call friend, engage those among you who are visionary and remove from your life those who offer you depression, despair and disrespect.” – Nikki Giovanni

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RANT: Life

Realize you can't change shit. Thats a given, you can't change people, you can't change a decision you already made, you can't worry about shit. You just have to live. You hold on to shit and it makes you sick. It makes you worse. You become the person you can't be around and wonder why no one wants to be around you.
I've taken a minute off of writing to get a hold on things that I couldn't change. As if was a slave to giving up on what I love to ensure the satisfaction of others. So in my time off, I did the shit I love;I decided to live and do homework. It's only so much you can take of doing for others that don't value you. Sometimes it's healthy to shut out the negative and all the bad vibes, to surround yourself with total peace.

My advice to you is my daughter's favorite phase from the movie FROZEN, "Let it go!"

" You only live once, that's the motto, ni--a Yolo!"
-Drake The Motto

My LIGHT GIRL Experience

After completely watching Light Girls and Dark Girls, I've decided to share my experience. Listening to the women that shared similar stories as mine. "Mellow Yellow!" "White girl!" "Yella bitch!" "You not black!", "your momma or daddy white?" "You too light." "I like you because of your skin color." "You'll win because your light skin." "You dance white!" "You talk white!" Do you know I've heard it all. I was teased and hell, I'm still teased. I never knew how difficult it would be to tell this experience.

Dating while light skin:
In high school I was approached  by a guy who said he gave me a double take because I was  light. Now if you know me, I've been more involved with light skin men and not because I don't like other guys of different complexions. I've just been approached more by those guys. I've had white men tell me, "you're not black but you're cute for whatever you are." Let's not forget the white women that looked at me with these piercing looks because  I was in a club on Wash Ave and a white guy was talking to me and we exchanged numbers... I instantly felt like "that black girl". You're either not black enough or too black.
Recently, I sat down to grab a bite to eat and drink with a good friend that is a white male I've known for about 15 years. We laughed, we hugged, and we enjoyed ourselves. At this Mexican restaurant I was the only black person in there, but I didn't realize until later that I was the only "spook" in there. I assume I was mistaken for being Hispanic because one of the waiters came up and told him I was "trouble". My friend and I continued our conversation about how interracial couples are starred at in all environments, the priveledge versus nonpriveledge, and how complexions are what separate Black Americans. I told him later I felt like the more we talked and laughed we were being observed. No one knew we were friends that haven't seen one another in a very long time and always enjoyed being around one another.

Little Victoria (approx. age 7)

Growing up light skin:
My family has all skin tones, my beautiful family is black. We're made up of different ethnic backgrounds, but our birthcertificates say African-American. Growing up my grandfather looked white, he was biracial. His mother Black and father white, he was raised by the orphanage Boystown. His blue eyes and foul language, people assumed he was Italian. My mother can tell you growing up black, with a daddy that appeared white was probably  even more difficult. She said, "I'd  duck down in the car or have my dad drop me off further away from the school, so the kids wouldn't tease me about  having a white dad".  Black kids can be vicious, I remember  biracial twins Sam and Mike from preschool would tease me and harass me to admit I was mixed. They would refuse to believe my dad was black and from East Saint Louis and my mom was black and from Little Rock, Arkansas.
Growing up I've heard it all. I even think I listen to more hip hop to compensate for not being black enough. I honestly love all genres but unconsciously knowing, I listen to music that I think everyone else listens to ...while being Black.

My daughter is also very light and she has the same name as her cousin but it is spelled differently. These two are different complextions and when they were younger the kids would call them the Black one and the white one. Luckily another kid stepped in and changed that, now they are used their initials to identify the one they want.

Being light skin:
It's one of those things, I appreciate. I can't change it. I don't think I'm better than anyone. It's obvious that others pay attention to the color of their skin. Being Black is already difficult without other Blacks comparing ourselves to one another. I'm still Black and this Black is beautiful. My birthcertificate doesn't say, "yella", "redbone", or "highlighter". No matter who I date, I'm Black. Even if it's a "Guess Who's Coming to Dinner" moment or step in the room with my beautiful family members Jackie, Natalie, Bonita or Carmen; I'm going to be the butt of someone's joke. It never fails, but like I said, "I'm still Black and this Black is beautiful.

Nobody understood what it was like to be black and Jewish… being different from everyone else just made me a lot stronger.” – Drake

Living Single 2015

It was cool "Living Single" when it was a 90s kind of world but I was a kid then too. As a twenty something young female you question yourself, what am I doing wrong? Why am I single? Every week looking on Instagram and there's a post saying something like, "If she's pretty and single, she's crazy". Then you question yourself, "am I?". Is it that I'm possibly crazy and drive dudes away? Am I to pushy? Is it because my ass doesn't look like Nicki? Do I have too many rules? Do I not have enough rules? Am I expressing too much? Is it because I don't have the perfect body?
Then hopefully you laugh at yourself and say "No, I'm damn near perfect", because you are. If anything, if a guy can't see that you're independent, but you know when to let a man be a man if he shows he's capable, then honey you're damn near perfect. I can't tell you how many " I hate I didn't do you right" text that I receive. It's like guys have an epiphany, deal with a chick that doesn't do half of what you did for him, or  just flat out realizes he did you dirty and wants forgiveness. Is it fair to you to doubt who you are? If he can't take you at your Regine, Max, Khadijah, and or Sinclair (No Overton), then maybe he's not the one you end the up with in the series finale.
Guys, are constantly making post like, "The best pu**y, is loyal pu**y", but their penis is more involved in the community than the Mayor. That is the moment, women see double standards are what block relationships. When a woman decides to invest in her own Trojans and feel no attachment much like Maxine Shaw, she is labeled a hoe, a bitch, a slut anything other than the strong minded woman she chose to be. She can't allow a man to not show commitment when she does and remain ok in the situation because it isn't a relationship, it's self-destruction.
For the full cast of Living Single, kind of woman, meaning a young lady that can hold down the household, get her needs satisfied, and enter a room to effortlessly get all the attention; a man can't handle. Seems like the more a woman proves she can be warm by herself, the opposite sex find it hard to control. I personally have dealt with an individual that adored my qualifications as a woman but didn't want me to have the mentality to match. He made it apart of his everyday life to place me on a pedestal that only he could congratulate me on but knock me off  too. He created my dependency on him. I believe it's one reasons I'm single, I don't really think I'm as beautiful as I've been told. Honestly, I look in the mirror and try to convince myself  the confidence I portray to those looking at me. I told myself I'd express that detail more, in hopes that I'd force myself out of that thought process.
As you continue your ongoing episode of Living Single I hope you figure out your strengths and weaknesses; note them. Some say find God, but depending on your beliefs I just say find the God within and know there is a higher power. Then you can proceed to walk that walk. Know you're damn  near perfect and that girl all the guys make googly eyes over, just think she was once an ugly duckling that spent all her money on that body, hair, and nails and she was born a boy (😂 even if she wasn't a boy, it still makes you laugh).

"You ain't the only one that's try a be the only one."
-Drake (We'll Be Fine)