It was cool "Living Single" when it was a 90s kind of world but I was a kid then too. As a twenty something young female you question yourself, what am I doing wrong? Why am I single? Every week looking on Instagram and there's a post saying something like, "If she's pretty and single, she's crazy". Then you question yourself, "am I?". Is it that I'm possibly crazy and drive dudes away? Am I to pushy? Is it because my ass doesn't look like Nicki? Do I have too many rules? Do I not have enough rules? Am I expressing too much? Is it because I don't have the perfect body?
Then hopefully you laugh at yourself and say "No, I'm damn near perfect", because you are. If anything, if a guy can't see that you're independent, but you know when to let a man be a man if he shows he's capable, then honey you're damn near perfect. I can't tell you how many " I hate I didn't do you right" text that I receive. It's like guys have an epiphany, deal with a chick that doesn't do half of what you did for him, or just flat out realizes he did you dirty and wants forgiveness. Is it fair to you to doubt who you are? If he can't take you at your Regine, Max, Khadijah, and or Sinclair (No Overton), then maybe he's not the one you end the up with in the series finale.
Guys, are constantly making post like, "The best pu**y, is loyal pu**y", but their penis is more involved in the community than the Mayor. That is the moment, women see double standards are what block relationships. When a woman decides to invest in her own Trojans and feel no attachment much like Maxine Shaw, she is labeled a hoe, a bitch, a slut anything other than the strong minded woman she chose to be. She can't allow a man to not show commitment when she does and remain ok in the situation because it isn't a relationship, it's self-destruction.
For the full cast of Living Single, kind of woman, meaning a young lady that can hold down the household, get her needs satisfied, and enter a room to effortlessly get all the attention; a man can't handle. Seems like the more a woman proves she can be warm by herself, the opposite sex find it hard to control. I personally have dealt with an individual that adored my qualifications as a woman but didn't want me to have the mentality to match. He made it apart of his everyday life to place me on a pedestal that only he could congratulate me on but knock me off too. He created my dependency on him. I believe it's one reasons I'm single, I don't really think I'm as beautiful as I've been told. Honestly, I look in the mirror and try to convince myself the confidence I portray to those looking at me. I told myself I'd express that detail more, in hopes that I'd force myself out of that thought process.
As you continue your ongoing episode of Living Single I hope you figure out your strengths and weaknesses; note them. Some say find God, but depending on your beliefs I just say find the God within and know there is a higher power. Then you can proceed to walk that walk. Know you're damn near perfect and that girl all the guys make googly eyes over, just think she was once an ugly duckling that spent all her money on that body, hair, and nails and she was born a boy (😂 even if she wasn't a boy, it still makes you laugh).
"You ain't the only one that's try a be the only one."
-Drake (We'll Be Fine)
