Walk this way!!!

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Walk this way!!! by victoriasaidit featuring Rip Curl

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Brown blazer
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George J. Love black pants
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Sole Society ankle boots
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Dolce Gabbana canvas purse
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Ki ele stainless steel jewelry
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Layered necklace
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UCF FRAT NOT WRONG FOR CHANTING "RAPE BI****S"

According to the Huffington Post; A University of Central Florida discipline panel says a fraternity that was suspended over a member's videotaped offensive remarks about rape did not violate university policy.

Thursday's ruling still requires staff approval, and the fraternity will remain suspended until the final decision.

Information from Huffington Post says the Sigma Nu fraternity chanting "RAPE! RAPE!" and other offensive remarks June 9th wasn't enough evidence to convict the student, which no longer attends University of Central Florida.

"Bust that pu**y open, then I tell her bring it back. Make sure you don't fall in love, cuz I don't have the time for that. Only thing I chase is money, if you tell me where its at! When you rich, there is a certain type of woman you attract". 

-Drake (Take you down)

#SayHerName

I've been silent long enough. Personally I experienced some would say depression others call it a break down. I've mentally been fighting and can't hold off any longer. I stepped out of the ring of fire because you have cops following you around, your family is in jeopardy, and your family supports you but fears you won't return home and this may be their last good bye.
I'm done holding my tongue. It's more depressing to not say anything and act as if this world isn't full of shit. We have police officers steady getting off murdering us. Then we have folks that only know retaliation as an answer. So, hell we stay in memorial services and funerals.
The biggest problem I have with this world is the people that speak, that should just shut up. Some people don't understand what's going on, you just take everything face value; as is, and that's that. Like you think a woman can hang herself with a trash bag? What kinda trash bag is that?  And I guess you've never been to jail. No trashcans in jail! You think a cop has the right to pull you out of your car? HOW?!

YOU ARE KIDDING ME IF YOU THINK SANDRA BLAND HUNG HERSELF!

YOU ARE OUT OF YOUR MIND IF THINK ANYTHING A COP DOES, THEY HAVE THE RIGHT TO DO BECAUSE OF A BADGE.

#JusticeOrElse

#BlackLivesMatter

#VictoriaSaidit

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 I've  discovered that being an adult is the ultimate challenge, then to dig deep I find it is even more of a challenge to be a woman. In addition to being a female and adult... add black to the equation baby. 

Women birth the children with the help of a males sperm, but we carry the child for 9 months in hopes that the child we birth will be healthy, smart, and safe. We hope that this child will listen to us and stay away from the bad people. As a mother, the struggles are real. 

Being black is the icing on the cake. It is 2015 and to be uplifted by society is an up hill battle. No I'm not putting down white women. I'm simply uplifting woman all together that I know without a doubt get only little praise and little encouragement. And no I'm not preaching feminism, but as its been stated, encouragement. Yes when all else fails, quote Drake, but no fails here; be powerful! 

• “Success is liking yourself, liking what you do, and liking how you do it.” – Maya Angelou
• ‎”When there is no enemy within, the enemies outside cannot hurt you.” – African Proverb
• “The triumph can’t be had without the struggle.” – Wilma Rudolph
• “Whatever is bringing you down, get rid of it. Because you’ll find that when you’re free . . . your true self comes out.” — Tina Turner
• “There is always something to do. There are hungry people to feed, naked people to clothe, sick people to comfort and make well. And while I don’t expect you to save the world I do think it’s not asking too much for you to love those with whom you sleep, share the happiness of those whom you call friend, engage those among you who are visionary and remove from your life those who offer you depression, despair and disrespect.” – Nikki Giovanni

-Victoria Said It

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So I went thrift shopping today. Yes... I love to go thrift shopping and  I came across this thing. Only thing is I don't know what it is exactly. My plan was to use it for my cigarette smokers for their ashtray on my patio, but then I started looking at it and I really want to know what it is!
It's come to my attention that it's way more than an ashtray. Hell my daughter said "it's looks like a thing you keep people's ashes in". LOL! At least I hope it isn't an urn.
This has been on my brain like Kanye, ALL DAY ALL DAY! Help me!

"What up, what up? H Town in this bit*h! What up, what up? Me and Pump about to do it for the city! What up..."
-Drake (What Up)

Don't Bring 'Em Home If They Can't Use Your Comb

This write up has been in the works for a little over a month. This isn't the easiest to write because I personally have so much emotion tied into. People have their opinions, so I decided to write this from another's experience who would be just as passionate in her words about stereotypes and acceptance of her family.
 I got the chance to get some time of my older sister to ask her some questions. Her family is super adorable and guess what? They are just that, a family. Not a black family, not a white family, but a family. There's Chas, Tim, and their son Corbin.
Many black women refuse to date outside the race for a number of reasons. When you see an interracial couple, most people are still very judgemental. Why not talk about the stereotypes, dealing with acceptance, and the experience of interracial dating?

Victoria: Have you heard of the stereotype; white women that date black men are in it for the money?

Chas: I have literally never heard of this stereotype! There's some humor to it because I've known several white women who've dated black men and that never crossed my mind.

This one lady, Cathy, dated nothing but black men, we always joked that she wanted to be black so bad that she would give them HER money. Her last boyfriend Mark took her for all she had and it was such an odd pairing because he, as a black man, seemed border-line racist towards white people.

Another lady, Marlene says that she's only attracted to black me and just can't “see” herself with anyone outside of the black race. It's just her personal preference.

Victoria: In these times now, biracial couples are still being looked at as if love has a definition of what ethnicity is allowed to fall in love. Many say they'd never let their son date a white girl. Some feel it's a diss to the black man for a black woman to date a white man. As society shows us on television, biracial couples are ok, as long as they look like Jason And Kelly Pitts (BET, The Game).
For me personally, it's hard to be prejudice, because my ethnic background is so mixed up, but I love my black people. I love a black man, but if he's not crazy, got a smile, 6'0" or better ,respectful, and he's head over heels for me... I don't care if he's rainbow, sounds like a keeper to me but time and time again when an African American woman is dating outside the race, she's  called a “sellout” and are said to not be“black enough”.

Chas: I'm quite sure that this notion crosses some people's mind when they see Tim and I, along with Corbin. Knowing this does not bother me, only because we've been together for so long. The looks and stares are just not important to me anymore.

Rewind back 8 years ago: I intentionally looked for people who stared at us too long just so that I could 'hardcore' stare right back until they got uncomfortable. I was angry at the shear rudeness of people and this my 'revenge' on them.

Do I think of myself as a sellout? No. Tim was the first/only white guy I ever dated. It wasn't suppose to last. I'm not a sellout because his race was not the reason that I chose to continue my relationship with him.

I think that a sellout is a person who, given a choice would choose the (in this case) white guy of the guy of my own race (black). No, I remain with Tim because he was the first guy to show a desire to be in a long-term relationship with me, he wanted a future with me.

I don't consider myself a sellout because I liked having a boyfriend that loved me, I eventually wanted a future with him NOT a baby with 'good hair'. That would be selling out!

And I am 'black enough' because I love myself. Sure my natural hair gets on my nerves and I haven't gone to Africa to 'search' my ancestry, but how many 'us' have natural hair and have gone to Afric? Just because you stay dating in your race, does not give one “more blackness”. I think that being aware of where our culture came from and where it's headed is being “more black”.

Victoria: Acceptance when racism still exist can be a challenge. You've seen the remake of Guess Who's Coming to Dinnner called Guess Who starring Bernie Mack and Ashton Kutcher, it was just as difficult to have the father of the daughter except this white male, but reality he explained as a father, no one will ever be good enough for his daughter.
Ashton Kutcher's character dealt with his white coworkers and boss accepting his black girlfriend. In the name of love for his girlfriend he quit his job. How has this experience of acceptance been for you all?

Chas: Our families were well aware that if they did not accept us, then they'd lose us! I was under no pressure to remain within the race, and neither was Tim by his parents. When I met some of his other family (cousins uncles etc...) I could tell that there was some discomfort but I knew that it was something on their part. I didn't make anyone uncomfortable; they made themselves uncomfortable. So when I thought of it that way, I was just fine with whatever they thought of me.

In the beginning of our relationship, one of Tim's childhood friends told him that he didn't 'really like black girls'. Tim told him “...she's not for YOU” and their relationship is basically non-existent now.

One of my best friends told me “I don't want you with a white guy!” that really didn't bother me, because I didn't expect it to last that long, but as time went by she realized that she was either going to accept it or lose me. She's still my best friend to this day and she loves Tim with all of her heart. I'm glad that my family loves Tim and I know that Tim's parents, brothers and sister love me just as I do them

It's daunting to have this 'duty' to show people that love truly is blind. I'm at a point with grown ups who can't accept interracial dating that I'm okay with leaving them in their ignorance. Let them swim in it, I'm not getting paid to change their perceptions.

"Take it or Lose me!"
-Chastity Alexis McGraw

The Universe Speaks Loud... but you don't hear it

Sometimes the universe has it's way of speaking to you. It's been a humbling experience down this road. I'm not sure if this is as far as its taking me but I know after my jobless experience, it's been a stressful ride and I only cried like 3 times, which 2 of those were out of anger. The 1 time I think I just needed to relieve some pressure...
By all means,  I'm able to be happy. My spirit is happy. I've lost some people along the way and that's cool. I wish them much peace and maybe in due time when I allow them back in my life, they'll be ready for me... Then again in this humbling experience I can just worry about today. Things I can't change, I won't fight. I'll just let it happen.
You can't change anything, it's easier to know that. Know you're going to do what the universe has in store for you, it's easier to grow like that. In the upmost respect of yourself and the universe, live as free as you can. The universe doesn't have a given time line and we can't hold on to tomorrow, better to live like that.

"I'm turnin' into a nigga that thinks about money and women, like 24/7. That's where my life took me. That's just how shit happened to go"
-Drake (Know yourself)